When you speak to your child, take the opportunity as often as possible to get down to their level and look them in the eyes. If you look down at them, it’s a position of superiority and it can be intimidating to a child. Whenever you can, become more physically equal so they will be comforted. Talk to them like adults, smile and laugh as much as you can, but always look them in the eyes. In return they will respect you and they will develop the habit of looking at you when you speak. This is foundational for a strong relationship of long term mutual respect.

Take the opportunity to do this while feeding your child, on the floor during tummy time, while having an encouraging discussion, during a teaching moment and most importantly, whenever they do something you may not approve of. Get down to their level and talk to them in calm tones.

They understand more than we give them credit for.